What if God was one of us?
I have no time this morning, but thought I would make time to write. In a few, short, hurried hours, I am in a wedding. My dress is beautiful, my fabulous hair is going to look spectacular. I gave myself the necessary mani/pedi last night. I'm mostly ready to go.
There's a little hiccup. At the rehearsal, the pastor told the bridal party that, during the ceremony, we would be asked to make a commitment to God to help out the couple. If for some "crazy" reason, we don't want to do it, we may make a spectacle of ourselves and sit down.
This really bugged me. I don't want to make a strong commitment to God in any church other than my own. Does saying yes mean I have to go to church with them? Am I then on the mortgage loan? What does this mean and why can't we be the bridal posse like every other wedding?
He also told us not to drink caffeine (or be drunk) today. Are you nuts? Drinking, sure, wait for the open bar. But caffeine?
So, I may be morally opposed and take one for the bride/groom team anyway. Yuck.
posted by One in a million Saras @ 7:29 AM
5 Comments:
Sara,
I'm sure you look smashing in your bridal party attire! Hope you have fun despite being sucker-puched at the last minute.
I, too, would have resentment about these "instructions" at the last minute. What church is it? I want to avoid it!
I probably would just sit down during the commitment time. As long as I felt awkward about what was being asked of me and had that as an option, I'd honor my feelings.
I was chosen to give the graduation speech at Lake Superior College X number of years ago and at the last minute was asked to change my speech. I was aksed mpt to call myself "mother". They wanted me to say "parent", supposedly because there was one stay-at-home dad in the graduating class. I said, at the tiem, that he could call himself a "dad" when HE gave the graduating speech. I was also asked to take out mention of my children. (AS a newly single, stay-at-home mother finding herself back in college in her 40s, I had dedicated my speech about change to my daughters). The college had access to my speech for over a month and had specifically chosen me based on my proposed speech. I felt they asked for changes days before the ceremony specifically because they didn't think I would make a fuss since programs were already printed with my name. They were wrong. I refused their requests/demands. I'm glad I did. Not giving the speech was a better lesson to my girls that getting up and giving my original speech. They witnessed how difficult it was for me to come to that decision but hopefully they also learned about being true to themselves.
I wouldn't make a scene and disrupt the day for the bride and groom but I would honor my gut. As far as no caffeine goes....I would stop drinking it about 2 hours before the ceremony (would hate to have to take a bathroom break while walking down the aisle!) but other than that....well, I can't type it here!
Take pictures of yourself all dolled up and being brunette...I want to see! Have fun!
Sorry for all the typos in my previous posting. I guess it's too early in the morn for me. I haven't had my coffee yet.
Yikes!!! Freaky church! I would say that if you don't want to sit down, you can committ to praying for the couple. Mortgage? Nope. Or, sit.
Obviously I am too lenient at my weddings!
I have heard of some weird things but that is pretty strange. Did the pastor tell the bridal couple about these wacky requests before they asked the members of their bridal party?
At the rehearsal, seems a little late to make restrictions or ask people to do things that aren't their choice. I hope the bride and groom were not so brain-washed that they were able to resist the pastor's request! Or at least tell him that was not something they wanted included in the ceremony. I would hope that the bridal party, by being attendants for the couple, would be expressing their blessing on the marriage. The vows are for the couple!
And Michelle, I am sure you are not too lenient!
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